“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
Constantly thinking what others are doing, stalking others on social media, and berating yourself for feeling inadequate in comparison drains your energy and robs your joy. Yet it can be addictive.
Like any addiction again it’s a harmful habit if taken to extremes, comparison can be self-sabotaging and a form of self-abuse. It’s also a hard pattern to stop. But stop you must if your joy is to be returned to you.
We’re curious, social beings. We are drawn to others, we like to know what people are up to, and we like to follow successful people.
But we don’t see everyone’s entire life. We only see one glance—and often it’s a carefully curated one.
We don’t befriend ourselves enough and acknowledge our difficult journey, and how we have triumphed over trauma, or how far we’ve come. Some of what we have experienced others may never have experienced—much less survived.
Instead of comparing ourselves to others negatively, to reclaim joy we need to think about where we are now and compare this to where we have been—yesterday, last week, last month, last year. This is especially important when we are recovering for illness or a setback of any kind. Traumatic experiences or mental health challenges can make us especially vulnerable.
Compare yourself to people similar to you or who have been in the same spot and are now flourishing.
Think of someone you aspire to be like. Oprah? Drew Barrymore? Your mother? Or a dear friend?
Surround yourself with your mentors. People who are inspiring and smile in the face of adversity are like vitamins for our souls.
Look back at a time you felt joy and compare yourself to that person. But be careful you don’t hold onto the old you and forget to feed the new emerging you.
This is an edited extract from How to Find Your Joy and Purpose: Four Easy Steps to Discover A Job You Want And Live the Life You Love.
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